how to deal every frustrations in life

Sometimes when things don't work out fine just as what we want it to be (which is most of the time) ...we feel frustrated and depressed. We initially feel that it is the end of it. Or there's no other option but the one that has failed. At that first instant its like your world has fallen apart, or you just have been stabbed right through your chest and you can't breathe or think clearly. Or you just see void darkness and you're in the middle of an oblivion doing practically nothing.

It is just the common signs and/or symptoms of frustration. We all feel that kind of thing, maybe just may be in different levels or in different perceptive. Depending on the tolerance of a person in dealing frustration or pain. Humans are not immuned in this kind of emotion. No one wants to be hurt, or want to feel depression or frustration. If only we can choose what to feel, we will all want to feel happiness, joy, pleasure, we all want to feel pleasant and no hint of sadness.

There are stages in life that we must surpass. Every obstacle, every challenge that we must succeed upon. First, is the first hint of darkness. This is when you feel you are stabbed in the chest and cannot breathe. But technically it is only in your mind. You can still breathe because there's nothing wrong with your body parts and everything is functioning well. Second, a pinch of pain. It is when you feel just a little pain at first but you think it is hurting like there's nothing you've felt before. Technically, you really feel the pain but it does not sink yet in to your system. And third, an ounce of rejection and a bit of denial. This is when we feel that its not our loss. You deny that you are frustrated, you deny that you feel depressed and you reject the idea that you are hurt. Fourth, when everything finally sinks in to your system, in your mind, creeping into your skin, throbbing in your heart, when you finally realize what has just really happen..this is when you cry...and cry...and cry...like there's no end of your crying. you pour everything out off your system, out of your body, out of your soul...it is like cleansing your body of the bile, the bitterness, and all the residue of the darkness that has eaten your pride. When you are done crying, when no tears wants to escape your eyes, your tear ducts has dried...and you're tired of crying...and when you feel your head aching...but your inside is sooo light like a feather...that you feel calm and stable...this is the only time you can think clearly...feel clearly...and here comes the fifth stage, learn the acceptance...this is when you are ready to face another challenging day ahead of you. That tomorrow is a new day. A new light that surely will be peering into your window in the morning...in that you will figure out what to do and soon you'll find courage and confidence again. Til then you will realize that it is not the end the end of it after all...but a new beginning of a chapter in your life.


It is because, we plan for it in our mind as what we perceive it to be

keeping my blog alive

Wow! it's been an eon since I last posted. There were times that I want to write but too lazy to do so. I have this pocket diary that I acquired lately for 2010, try as much as I can to scribble the thoughts I have in mind. And also to remind me of the things that has happened and things I bought and places I've gone to. Fortunately, I manage to write in most of the time, even some boring days that I have spent only in the house cleaning, resting, watching dvd or simply doing nothing. But right now, I want to keep my personal blog alive again. hopefully I could maintain to write from now on. hopefully...still keeping my fingers crossed. let's see...